{"title":"Esther Perel","description":null,"products":[{"product_id":"mating-in-captivity-esther-perel-paperback-non-fiction","title":"Mating In Captivity: How To Keep Desire Alive by Esther Perel - Non Fiction - Paperback","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eDetails\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCondition: New\u003cbr\u003eFormat: Paperback\u003cbr\u003eISBN: 9780340943755\u003cbr\u003ePublisher: Hodder \u0026amp; Stoughton\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eOverview\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMating in Captivity is Esther Perel's landmark exploration of desire within long-term relationships. Drawing on decades as a couples therapist, Perel asks why security and passion so often pull against each other, and what couples can do to keep eroticism alive once domestic routine sets in. Blending clinical case studies with sharp, accessible prose, this paperback is a thought-provoking read for anyone in a committed relationship, and a staple recommendation for therapists and relationship counsellors alike.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAbout the Book\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eModern relationships promise everything: lifelong companionship, deep intimacy, and lasting erotic connection. Esther Perel argues that these goals can quietly work against one another, since the very closeness and predictability that make us feel safe can also be what dampens desire. In Mating in Captivity, she draws on more than three decades of clinical practice with couples from around the world to examine why so many people struggle to want what they already have.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRather than offering simplistic fixes, Perel builds a nuanced framework around the tension between \"security\" and \"adventure\" — the domestic and the erotic. She uses real (anonymised) case studies to illustrate common patterns: the parent who can't switch from caregiver to lover, the partner who confuses closeness with merging, the couple who mistake conflict-avoidance for intimacy. Throughout, her voice is warm, witty, and refreshingly free of jargon, making complex psychological ideas feel immediately relevant to everyday life.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis edition, published by Hodder \u0026amp; Stoughton, runs to 272 pages and has become one of the most widely recommended relationship books of the last two decades, translated into multiple languages and referenced constantly in therapy rooms, book clubs, and podcasts. It sits alongside Perel's later work, including The State of Affairs, as essential reading for anyone curious about the psychology of modern love.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReal clinical case studies illustrating common relationship dynamics\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePractical, non-judgemental strategies for reigniting desire\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA fresh framework for balancing security and excitement in long-term love\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAccessible, witty writing free of therapy jargon\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIdeal for couples, therapists, book clubs, and students of psychology\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA trusted, widely-recommended modern classic in relationship literature\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eEsther Perel is a Belgian psychotherapist based in New York, renowned worldwide for her work on relationships, desire, and infidelity. She is the host of the acclaimed podcast Where Should We Begin?, and her TED Talks on desire and infidelity have been viewed by millions. Perel's international therapy practice and decades of clinical experience inform her writing, which has made her one of the most recognised voices in contemporary relationship psychology.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhy You'll Love This Book\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHonest, funny, and genuinely useful, Mating in Captivity reframes familiar relationship frustrations with fresh language and real hope. 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Drawing on decades of clinical practice, Perel moves beyond simplistic notions of betrayal to ask why people cheat, what infidelity really means, and how couples can survive or transform after it happens. This paperback edition is essential reading for anyone touched by love, loss, or longing.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAbout the Book\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\nInfidelity has existed for as long as marriage itself, yet Esther Perel argues that our understanding of it has failed to evolve alongside our shifting expectations of romantic partnership. In The State of Affairs, she challenges the binary of victim and villain, instead examining affairs as expressions of desire, self-discovery, and the human search for aliveness. Perel draws on years of therapeutic case studies, cultural commentary, and cross-cultural analysis to unpack why intelligent, loving people stray, and why the aftermath of an affair does not have to mean the end of a relationship. She explores the emotional aftershocks of betrayal, the difference between a slip, a crisis, and an affair, and how couples can rebuild trust, or use the crisis as a catalyst to redefine their relationship entirely. Compassionate rather than judgmental, Perel gives language to feelings that are often silenced by shame, offering readers new frameworks for understanding commitment, monogamy, and desire in the twenty-first century. Whether you are a partner who has strayed, someone who has been betrayed, a therapist, or simply a curious reader of relationship psychology, this book offers rare clarity on a subject usually clouded by moral judgement. It has become a touchstone text in contemporary relationship literature, cited widely in therapy circles and popular discourse alike.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOffers a compassionate, non-judgemental framework for understanding infidelity\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWritten by a globally respected psychotherapist with decades of clinical experience\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUseful for individuals, couples, and relationship professionals alike\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBlends real case studies with cultural and psychological analysis\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHelps readers move from blame towards understanding and possible repair\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA thoughtful gift for anyone navigating trust, betrayal, or relationship change\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\nEsther Perel is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author widely regarded as one of the most original voices on contemporary relationships. 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World-renowned psychotherapist Perel explores why desire fades in long-term relationships and why even happy couples cheat, offering compassionate, research-informed insight rather than judgement. Ideal for couples, therapists, and curious readers, this collection is a thoughtful gift for anyone navigating intimacy, commitment, or betrayal in a modern relationship.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAbout the Books\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\nIn \u003cem\u003eMating in Captivity\u003c\/em\u003e, Perel examines the paradox at the heart of committed relationships: how to sustain erotic desire alongside domestic security. Drawing on decades of clinical experience as a couples therapist, she argues that our cultural obsession with equality and togetherness can quietly smother passion, and she offers candid, sometimes provocative, guidance on keeping lust alive within a loving partnership. 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