Come As You Are By Dr Emily Nagoski Book

Come as You Are: the bestselling guide to the new science that will transform your sex life by Dr Emily Nagoski is a compassionate, science-backed paperback for anyone who wants a healthier, happier, and more confident intimate life. Ideal for partners, solo readers, parents, educators, and counselors, this BRAND NEW paperback edition breaks down myths, explains how individual differences shape desire, and offers practical tools that actually work.

This accessible paperback edition (Format: Paperback • Condition: BRAND NEW • ISBN: 9781925228014) condenses decades of research into a friendly, approachable book. Dr Emily Nagoski — a trusted voice in sexual health with a Ph.D. in Health Behavior (minor in Human Sexuality) and an MS in Counseling from Indiana University — draws on clinical experience (including an internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic) and 25 years as a sex educator. That background gives the book authority and empathy, making complex science feel useful and relatable.

What you'll find inside

Come as You Are reframes the whole conversation about desire by focusing on how context, stress, and emotion interact with biology. Rather than one-size-fits-all advice, Dr Nagoski explains why people experience desire differently and provides evidence-based strategies to improve connection and pleasure. The writing combines clear science with real-world examples and exercises you can use alone or with a partner.

Key features and chapters

• Science-first approach: Research explained in plain language so readers can apply findings to their own lives.
• Practical exercises: Communication prompts, stress management techniques, and attention-training tools to rebuild desire.
• Inclusive perspective: Advice that respects diverse bodies, orientations, and relationship types.
• Trusted expertise: From an experienced sex educator with clinical training at the Kinsey Institute.

Benefits at a glance

• Understand the biology and psychology of desire — stop blaming yourself or your partner.
• Learn practical strategies to reduce stress and increase pleasure.
• Improve communication and deepen intimacy with evidence-backed exercises.
• Great as a standalone read or part of a couples’ reading routine, classroom resource, or therapist-recommended library.

Whether you’re buying a single copy for personal growth or adding it to a curated book collection for a class, workshop, or support group, this paperback edition delivers trustworthy information in a warm, nonjudgmental voice. Its clear explanations and actionable steps make it a go-to resource for parents, teachers, therapists, and anyone seeking better sexual wellbeing.

Give the gift of understanding and connection — Come as You Are is a modern, bestselling guide that transforms uncertainty into confidence. Perfect as a thoughtful gift, an essential classroom text, or a timeless keepsake for couples and individuals working toward a more fulfilling sex life.