The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity By Esther Perel A Comprehensive Guide For Relationship Understandings Book

The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved by Esther Perel is a thoughtful, accessible paperback for readers seeking clarity about betrayal, desire, and the complexities of modern relationships. Ideal for couples, therapists, parents, teachers of relationship studies, or anyone curious about the psychology of affairs, this paperback edition offers a new framework for understanding why people cheat and how relationships can recover or be reimagined.

What this book explores

Infidelity is often framed as the ultimate betrayal, and Esther Perel, a trusted voice in contemporary relationship work, examines that idea with nuance and compassion. Drawing on clinical case studies and cultural analysis, she suggests that affairs are not simply moral failing but expressions of longing and loss that threaten emotional security. Perel reframes infidelity in a way that helps readers—whether they have cheated, been cheated on, or want to understand relational dynamics—approach the subject with less shame and more insight.

Product details

• Title in this Set: The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved by Esther Perel
• Condition: BRAND NEW
• Format: Paperback
• ISBN: 9781473673557

About the author

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author recognized as one of today’s most original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she maintains a private therapy practice in New York City, consults for Fortune 500 companies, and has delivered TED Talks with more than 20 million views. Her earlier international bestseller, Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, is translated into 25 languages. Perel is also the host and executive producer of the award-winning podcast Where Should We Begin? and brings real-world clinical expertise to this accessible paperback edition.

Why readers love this paperback edition

• Gives practical, compassionate language to discuss infidelity with partners or in therapy.
• Uses real clinical stories to illuminate common patterns and unexpected causes of affairs.
• Written by an award-winning, bestselling author trusted by parents, therapists, and relationship educators.
• Perfect paperback format for book clubs, classrooms, or bedside reading.
• Includes thoughtful analysis that can help restore trust or guide decisions about separation, repair, or transformation.

“Esther Perel does nothing short of strip us of our deepest biases, remind us of our purpose in connecting as lovers, and save relationships that might otherwise sink into the sea—all with even-handed wisdom, fresh morality, and wise prose. Thank heavens for this woman.” — Lena Dunham

This paperback is a valuable addition to any personal or professional library and makes a compassionate, thought-provoking gift for couples, therapists, or anyone studying human relationships. Whether used for bedtime reading, classroom discussion, or as a guide in counseling, The State Of Affairs offers a clear, respectful lens on one of the most painful and complex issues in modern love—helping readers move from judgement to understanding and, ultimately, to new possibilities.