Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fern - Non Fiction - Paperback

Details:
Condition: BRAND NEW
Format: Paperback
ISBN: 9781914484957
Publisher: Scribe UK
Age Range: Adult (18+)

Overview:
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy is Jessica Fern's influential guide applying attachment theory to polyamorous and open relationships. Written by a psychotherapist with clinical experience, it helps readers understand how childhood attachment patterns and past trauma shape jealousy, insecurity and communication in multi-partner relationships. Combining psychological theory with compassionate, practical exercises, this paperback is widely regarded as essential reading for anyone building consensual non-monogamy, whether newly exploring open relationships or deepening long-term polyamorous partnerships.

About the Book:
In Polysecure, Jessica Fern introduces her "nested model" of attachment, blending traditional attachment theory with attachment to self, partners and community to explain why some non-monogamous relationships thrive while others struggle. Drawing on her clinical work and personal experience within the polyamorous community, Fern unpacks how early relational wounds and trauma responses resurface in multi-partner dynamics, often manifesting as jealousy, anxious attachment or avoidant withdrawal. Rather than treating non-monogamy as inherently unstable, she argues that secure attachment is achievable with any relationship structure once underlying trauma is addressed. The book offers six concrete strategies readers can use to build trust, improve communication, and create emotional safety across several relationships at once. Case studies ground the theory in lived experience, making abstract psychological concepts feel immediately applicable. Fern also explores how societal conditioning around monogamy can leave people ill-equipped for polyamory's emotional demands, offering tools for unlearning these scripts. Topics include navigating new relationship energy, managing metamour relationships, and processing breakups within a polycule. The tone throughout is empathetic and non-judgemental, written for therapists, individuals and couples alike. Since publication, Polysecure has become a touchstone text in the non-monogamy community, frequently recommended by relationship therapists for its clear, actionable framework.

Key Benefits:

• Applies established attachment theory specifically to polyamorous and consensually non-monogamous relationships.
• Offers six practical strategies for building secure, trusting connections across multiple partners.
• Written by a licensed psychotherapist with direct clinical and personal experience of non-monogamy.
• Addresses real challenges such as jealousy, insecurity, new relationship energy and breakups.
• Suitable for individuals, couples and polycules, as well as therapists supporting non-monogamous clients.
• Blends accessible language with evidence-based psychological concepts for lasting personal growth.

About the Author:
Jessica Fern is a psychotherapist, public speaker and trauma specialist known internationally for her work on attachment within non-traditional relationship structures. She works with individuals and couples, including those in polyamorous and other consensually non-monogamous dynamics, helping them move beyond reactive patterns rooted in past trauma. Fern maintains an international private practice and speaks widely on secure attachment, trauma recovery and the cultural conditioning that shapes how we love. Her compassionate, research-informed approach has made Polysecure a widely referenced resource in both therapeutic and polyamory communities.

Why You'll Love This Book:
Polysecure offers rare clarity for anyone navigating the emotional complexity of non-monogamy. Practical, compassionate and grounded in real psychological theory, it turns relationship challenges into opportunities for genuine growth and connection.

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